Joy for this Mama
It’s funny when you’re thrown into parenthood you have this pre-constructed thought as to what it will look like. You have some false thoughts of perfection for both yourself and your child. And, you have some right on the nose thoughts about parenting. Then you have those things that’s been described to you, but you really can’t understand until you’ve been there, done that.
One of the parts of parenting that was a bit abstract for me was the JOY I find in my children. It’s hard to explain to a non-parent. I’ve had joy before my kids. I’ve found joy in my cousins, nieces and nephews. But none of these things compare to the JOY you find IN your children. It’s amazing! It’s so much more than anything I could feel for myself or anyone other than my children. Lots of things bring me joy as I raise my children. Those first fantastic words, shaky steps, or first time on a bike without training wheels (granted neither of my children are doing this yet). Those are joyful moments for parents.
With an allergic child, my joy also comes from simple things. Things many parents take for granted. My joy last week came from a very simple, luxury. We went out to eat. Because of the Little Guy’s allergies, we don’t do this often. And there’s one basic restaurant that’s always been safe for him. And then there’s a steak house we’ve gone to a few times which we’ve had pretty good experience at. But overall, not many places have passed our careful scrutiny.
As I sat across from him and saw him enjoying his meal in the crowded HuHot, I was filled with JOY. He was doing a perfectly normal activity and was doing it safely! We were having a family dinner like “normal” families. It’s these simple things that I enjoy as a parent. Living life and enjoying it with my kids. That is part of my Joy as a parent, watching my Little Guy experiencing life as every other kid gets to. I’m forever grateful for places such as HuHot that make it easier for us to do that.
But, as an allergic child’s parent, I often find myself wrapped up in worry and anxiety that I forget to sit back and experience the Joy of parenthood. I must remind myself that it is essential to take a few deep breaths and remember, enjoy my kids. Experience the joy they bring to everyday.
When was the last time you sat and enjoyed your children? Do you also have problems letting go of the anxiety? How do you let it go?
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